Relationships 101: The Bully

Hi y'all,

Today's post is one that is very close to my heart... the relationship with "the bully". At some point in everyone's life, you will probably have someone pick on you or be downright hateful to you, for no reason.

Now, I will be the first to say that there is no "single" answer as to how to handle a bully situation correctly. Every person is different. Some will stop if you just ignore them, others take serious consequences before their behavior changes.

1. Analyze the threat. How big of a threat is this person? Are they just picking on you? Are they threatening to hurt you? If it's the latter, find help/safe space immediately. If they're just picking on you, ask them, politely, to stop. Another option is to just ignore them.

2. Realize who you can rely on. When someone is being mean/bullying you, it is very easy to think you're alone. In fact, a lot of bullies thrive off of making their victim feel alone. It's very important that you have at least one person that you can talk to about the situation.

3. Concentrate on the good. At the end of the day, you've probably spent the majority of the day being miserable. I think it's very important that you take some time at the end of the day and think of at least one good thing that happened. It can be anything from getting a good grade on a difficult test or saying "hi" to someone new.

4. Don't be afraid to step outside your comfort zone. I think it's extremely important to step out of your comfort zone, but this shows the bully that they don't hold any power over you.

5. Have fun/ Be Happy. Literally the worse thing to a bully is you having fun/being happy. They want to suck all the happiness and fun out of your world. By even giving the appearance that you're happy, they'll lose interest.

with southern grace,

Lindsey

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